I over analyze things, I know, but last night and then again this morning the point was really driven home for me. I over analyze and over think thinks, which got me thinking...does my over analyzing get in the way of my personal success and happiness?
In the past I had been told by a professor that I worry too much and over think small assignments. He may have had a point: I had just written him a post asking about an assignment and I think I wrote something like “so let me get this straight, you want us to write a book, get it published, get on Oprah, win the Man Booker prize then give you a copy?” His reply was brief “no, I want a 500 word essay comparing 18th century Germany with today’s Germany, due on Friday”. Thank goodness because I had been on hold with the Harpo Company for two hours! I think I was on hold, come to think of it, I may have hung up on.
No that did not happen, but you get my point. I was told not to over think my homework and make it tougher that it was. I tend to think things are not as easy as they seem…I have no idea where this comes from. Last night my son and I were discussing the horrid movie Volcano and its cheesy special effects. Alex was trying to argue that anyone could out run a volcano flow, but of course I had to not only stop and correct him, I had explain
why he was wrong, as if his take on slow lava flow was going to stop him from entering Harvard or MIT. “
This young man thinks lava flow can only reach speeds up to 5 miles an hour, who screens these applicants?” I should have just enjoyed our banter but no, I had to pull out my science books, look up volcanoes and lava flows, all the while my son was rolling his eyes and saying “
really, mom, you have to analyze this point”? Mind you I was not trying to win a point, I was trying to figure out just how fast lava flow really is since I knew it had to be faster than 5 miles an hour but really did not know how fast. For the record it is only 8 miles an hour. The mudslides they create go much faster.
This morning I checked my e-mail and found myself staring and analyzing a post from a friend of mine who asked a simple question “where did I visit” then left me some clues. My first thought was he was on Facebook taking a string of quizes, but right away I knew that was wrong. He is not a Facebook kinda guy and certainly no Facebook quiz kinda guy. I stared at the clues as a whole, and then tried to break them down sentence by sentence. I was acting like Robert Langdon from the De Vinci code; I knew by breaking one code I would have the key to the next! Try as I might I could not decipher where my friend had been. I figured I was over thinking the post, so I tried to come up with places one could visit on the internet that had to do with what we had talked about the day before. Nothing was making sense because each time I thought I had it figured out, his line about liking pirates kept throwing me off.
Finally I thought I was just not smart enough to figure out where he had been so I called him to tell him he won. Guess where he had been? My blog! Every clue he gave me could be found in my own blog, he even quoted something I said just days before! Wow, talk about over analyzing! Here were my own words spelled out for me to see and I had no clue because I was making the puzzle out to be tougher than it needed to be.
So now I am left wondering if this is why I sometimes stop myself from doing things. I tend to think it will be hard or look at it from all angles until the thing becomes difficult because I made it out to be. Take my writing; I tend to shy away because I want to know my subject inside and out. If I find I lack some information I think what I have is not enough or not enough to enable me to write a good article or blog. So I guess my only recourse it to acknowledge this flaw in my character and learn to relax. Or maybe I am just over analyzing this too.